Understanding relationships – what a brothel manager teaches us
Catherine De Noire is 31 years old and works as a manager of a brothel. She was recently interviewed by Heute, and she shared her thoughts about love, work, and how people connect with each other.
Catherine also regularly shares posts with a lot of followers on social media. On top of that, she studies and does research.
There is not just one way to be in a relationship
Catherine doesn’t believe there’s just one way to be in a relationship.
Many people think you have to meet someone, fall in love, get married, buy a house, and have kids to be happy. But Catherine sees things differently.
Because of her job, she meets many people who have all kinds of relationships, some are open, some don’t involve sex, and some switch the usual roles between men and women.
She’s learned that it’s more important to be honest, respectful, and kind than to follow rules set by society.
Right now, Catherine doesn’t want to be in a relationship because she’s focused on her business, her studies, and her social media. She enjoys her life and doesn’t feel like she needs a partner to feel happy.
Some of the customers feel, something is missing in their lives
If Catherine ever has a partner again, she thinks it would probably be someone who works in the same industry. That way, they would understand each other’s lives. She knows her job is a big part of who she is, and any partner would have to accept that.
She also talks to many men who visit her workplace, and she notices that some of them come because they feel like something is missing in their personal lives. Sometimes they want to feel heard, try something new, or feel close to someone. Some of the things they want to try are hard to talk about with their partners because they’re afraid of being judged.
Catherine thinks that people should feel safe talking about their feelings and what they want in life. Many men have been taught not to show emotion or be vulnerable, but she believes that needs to change. She also said that while most workers in her field keep their emotions separate, sometimes real feelings happen, and then people have to make tough choices about continuing or ending that connection.
Catherine sees love as something real and changing. She believes being honest and open is the best way to build strong relationships. She encourages everyone to talk about what they want and how they feel.
There are many customers who visit the sex bars so as not to be alone
Catherine’s story is not unique, and whoever works in the sex industry will probably see things in the same way. There are many customers who visit the sex bar for the emotional connections; they don’t focus on the intercourse, but rather need someone to talk to.
This is especially common among people over 40, who are often divorced or sometimes widowed, and don’t have any relatives or friends nearby.
They also need emotions, human touch, and a few good words.
Honesty and respect are also important. In the sex industry, regulars often know the sex workers better, and although their connection strictly remains professional, respect forms the foundation of a good experience.
If the customer is rude or seedy-looking, he will be less likely to receive perfect services from the sex worker, simply because these women are also human. And if a customer is a real jerk, then he will be kicked out of the sex bar in the shortest possible way.
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