The Effects Slut-Shaming Has On Girls Working In Your Favorite Sex Bar

The Effects Slut-Shaming Has On Girls Working In Your Favorite Sex Bar

The word slut-shaming means to label a woman for the way they express their sexuality. It’s an identification for a sexually out of control person. They receive this label if they don’t act according to certain traditional expectations on sexual behavior. It takes only a bit of “wrong” behavior, for them to be silently labeled as a “slut”. If they don’t respect the dress code and dress in a sexually provocative manner, they’re sluts. If they engage in premarital or casual sex and use birth control, they’re definitely labeled. Not to mention if they take part in prostitution like most women in a sex bar.

They suffer this constant shame for reasons that weren’t made explicit. But if men engage in any of these behaviors, they are congratulated for being a “real man”. As the old saying goes, “boys will be boys” as for women, well “girls will be sluts”. It actually doesn’t matter how they handle their sexuality.

Fun Info: There’s even a Wikipedia page on slut-shaming: https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Slut-shaming

Why It Happens

Women have to face a lot of expectations when it comes to their looks and their sexuality. Society expects them to embrace their femininity and be “sexy”. We like women who are “hot”, otherwise, we might consider them awkward and not feminine enough. But if they step over some undefined boundaries and become “too sexy”, they become “slutty” instead. If a woman puts too much emphasis on her “sexiness” she is bound to receive some unpleasant labels. Basically, a woman is bound to be called a slut if she’s not hot enough or if she is too hot.

If she doesn’t put enough emphasis on her femininity, she won’t be as attractive but freely expressing it will make her “slutty”. Women are constantly at risk of receiving these labels. They are dancing on the edge of the knife with every social media post and every public appearance basically. It takes only once for their legs to slip and for them to be cut with words like “slut” and “whore”.

What Slut-Shaming Does

This phenomenon is nothing new, in fact, it has been deeply ingrained into our society for as long as we know it. It’s quite normal for us today and we didn’t even question it up until now. Even a 13-year-old girl is at risk of being called a “ho”. This kind of oppression starts in their school years. If a boy likes her, he might call her a “slut” in case she doesn’t like her too. If a boy doesn’t like her, she probably will be called a “slut”. Adult life is no different, this childish labeling is everywhere around us. If someone carries the label of “slut”, she is likely to be a target of sexual assault and rape.

Men can send around nude pictures of their girlfriends or an unconscious girl at a party. Deeds like this will make them cool instead of shameful. Slut-shaming can be very traumatizing, especially if it’s done publicly. It is one of the weapons cyberbullies use to hurt their victims. They don’t even need an actual reason to use it either. Often enough, it’s used as an excuse to rationalize a man’s crimes, with saying that she was acting “too slutty”.

A woman with a sign on her chest that says "end slut shaming".

But this has a clear expression online as well. In many cases, if a woman has spoken her mind on social media, it’s enough. Men with differing opinions will just throw around insults and threaten her with sexual assault. So, in most cases, slut-shaming does not have anything to do with a woman’s sexual expression. Things like this aren’t rare to come across in a sex bar either.

How It’s Handled

Under violent circumstances like this, are women better off restraining themselves from the sexual expression? Is it the safer way out? Even though it seems quite unfair because men will never face this choice. However they handle their sexuality, they won’t be held accountable for it. They can even go to a sex bar and have all the women they want. While women can be labeled “sluts” and “whores” no matter what they do. With this logic, she only has to be a woman to be called a slut. In fact, women of color are inherently considered more sexually wild. So they’re not far from being slut-shamed on first sight.

Yet for some people, the word “slut” is quite empowering. The word itself has different meanings, depending on who’s saying it, according to this VICE article. They decided not to let these social stigmas hold them down. Instead, they flipped the tables and used the worm to express their comfort with sexuality. But this strategy completely backfired. A lot of them were victims of sexual assault and even rape. This is because people still carry the implications these labels carry. Some men think that it’s okay to just disrespect and assault a woman.

The Takeaway

The conclusion that slut-shaming often doesn’t have anything to do with a woman’s sexuality, is evident.  It has always been around, due to our cultural conditioning. So basically, slut-shaming is just a new term for good old sexism and labeling. So it’s best that were more conscious about who we apply labels to, or not call women sluts at all.



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